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Another Splashy Weekend

Recently, I have begun to love doing my blogs the day after the weekend as it gives me a chance to ruminate on the week and yet again be amazed for our blessings even among sadness. Its been five years since Papa left and no amount of smiles and laughter can cover that fact up, but it can muffle it, make it seem that there is life after the departure of a loved one, time to celebrate other milestones, to grab dinner with old friends, some so much younger than me when I met them and now grown men with children.

It gives me so much wonder to see so many things occur in just one week, but more than anything else, it is realizing that moments and events keep occuring, and if we do not take the time to acknowledge them, they pass unnoticed through the mists of time, lost to memories that might get sparked randomly.

Rather than that happening, I see it better to greet it, to memorialize it, to thank the people in my life over and over because too often it easy to just mourn the losses, to continually grieve, to only notice the bad in ones life, to just feel alone when really we are alone with our thoughts that we can share with someone, anyone, if we would just open up.

So heres to another week passing, to celebrating, to grieving, to laughing, to worrying, to being with loved ones and sometimes alone but not lonely. I can’t wait to see what the new week will bring!

Brownness

Happy Birthday Preeti!

Today is my wife’s birthday and there is so much I have to say about someone who inspires me so much. It is a pleasure to wake up and see her beautiful face, to watch her embrace her niece or give me a tight hug or her hear reminisce about Papa or watch her hang out with my mom and sisters, sharing so much of herself with ease, jumping in daughter mode when needed, helping out her mom, hugging her dad, spending time with her sister in laws, and friends, and just doing it all not out of obligation but who she is.

It is inspiring to be around someone who has suffered so much in her young life yet people who meet her have no idea. I cannot complain when she gives up her time and energy in a heartbeat for not just her family but mine and has made it so I cannot say hers and my family. Through her love and personality, she has fused so many people into my life and made it bigger, grander, fuller and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

She has pushed me to grow, to be a better version of myself, allowed me space to deal with my demons and continually surprises me with her attitude and love. She gets better and younger looking each year and I envy the fact that she still gets carded. But more than anything else I am truly grateful that we get to be together through the tough times and the better ones, that we get to support each other when something heavy happens or when we are celebrating together. Occasions have more meaning for me when she is around, a constant reminder that one is not defined by disease or birth or family, but by their attitude, capacity to love, to forgive and to keep paying it forward.

Happy Birthday Babu!!

Brownness

Sprinkles of Love & Long Friendships

Another weekend passed and as we edge into September, its startling to think that 2022 is around the corner. Another weeknd to count my blessings, another weekend to notice how much love I am surrounded by, and another weekend to give my best to loved ones in their new ventures (from a new baby to school in London). The weekend started as a boys night out then into an impromptu poker night, and Saturday was a beautiful sprinkle for my sister in law as she prepares for her 9th month. The day turned into night as friends and family came over to our place, and we continued for hours.

Yet there is another train of thought as I get closer to the milestone of turning 50 in January. My friday conversation revolved around what I wanted to do, and truthfully beyond being with loved ones, nothing came to mind. Sure a big party sounds great, a destination event even better, but I also some part of me just wants it to be another birthday that I pass and hopefully keep growing in all areas of my life. As each weekend passes, and I get closer to that, I cannot help celebrate the fact that loved ones matter, not just the blood kind, but the ones who make you feel heard, respected and loved.

I spent most of the weekend, laughing, eating and drinking(of course) and revelling in the joy of being able to do so many thing different things with different people. The weekend ended with a tinge of sadness as my 19 year old niece goes across the pond to start university. As much as I mercilessly tease her, my love for her only grows. Its a nice feeling to still hang around a 3 year old niece and then say goodbye to an adult one who still reminds you of when she was 3.

A truly great way to live life.

Brownness

Friends and the Meaning of Sisterhood

Off The Hook!

Last Friday, I got invited to spend time with some people from Crossfit. It was a bit surreal to hang out as I normally see these people at just one place and usually in workout clothes, and as the night progressed and more crossfitters joined, it felt like a high energy workout except we got to eat and drink at the same time.

I also realized that some of my best vacations came with these people, while the circle in my crossfit grew from mere acquaintances to friendship. It’s hard to believe that even now I am blessed to get more like minded, kind, generous, and overall just fun to be with people. It makes me look forward to a future for more gatherings, trying new things and getting to know people better. Its funny when you make a place a home, you also get a chance to add to your family.

Speaking of Family, yesterday was Raksha Bandhan, an Indian festival that celebrates a relationship between brothers and sisters in which sisters tie a string to act as an amulet to protect their brothers, and brothers promise to take care of their sisters. My wrist became covered with 8 of these amulets and it hit me that I have more responsibility that I sometimes take for granted. In our culture, there is no word for cousins and thus we consider them to be siblings as well, but truth to be told, my cousins and family also form the backbone of my social relationships.

At first, I thought I had not much of a weekend to look forward to, but really I got 2 chances to be around dear friends and family as well as the chance to laugh, love, hug, kiss loved ones. So not just time passing, but events to remember and cherish.

Happy Monday!

Brownness

A Beautiful Weekend

This past weekend, we got the opportunity to have my niece spend the weekend with us. It was truly life changing in a way as spending more than 48 hours straight with a beautiful, high energy, positive human being was life affirming. Zara not just is curious, kind and present, but she is loving, quick to say thank you and I love you and always ready to play which meant engaging with her in dialogue.

Watching this tiny human in action, it hit me how much just being present and being around a loving human can sustain you. Now, one of the perks I had was that Zara is all about my wife which meant I got more breaks, yet I still got to enjoy them in observation. It’s amazing to have someone fill up a room with their personality.

Then of course we also had the fun time and while she outlasted us in energy, I couldn’t stop thanking Crossfit and my running habit for giving me the endurance to hang with her her. It was easy to remain grateful to have this person for so long, and saying goodby to her was tougher than normal because we got to experience the best good mornings with her.

I also can’t help smiling each time I remember when she saw me, and said I looked handsome. My back straightened up more, and my smile got wider. An unsolicited compliment from a three year old is definitely an ego booster. Funny, how spending time with someone so little can prove to be so large. I have to end by saying thank you to the parents for giving us this treasure and for trusting us to shined by her personality.

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A Weekend of Friends

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This past weekend, I was privileged to be hang out with dear friends the on Saturday and Sunday, and I could not help being grateful to have so many people I could laugh with, share stories and just feel good all around. I also got to do something I have never done before: Golf. While I was as bad as I thought I would be, what made it special was spending time with 3 other great guys who I know will be in my life for a long time to go.

And then there are the surprising new group of people who I have worked out with for over 4 years, and who I have had amazing vacations, and I see feel my circle widening, growing larger with love, caring and activities. They got me doing things I haven’t done in a while or ever (taking tequila shots and golf), but the camaraderie is what really kept the party going.

As silly as it seems, I thought I was done meeting people who I could connect with and be in my life for a long. Instead of subtracting, I am adding, even multiplying and I cannot help looking forward to the life ahead with so many people in it. It tells me that there is so much more out there as long I am willing to stay open, be present and keep saying yes to things that make me uncomfortable!