I sent this to my dear friend and family today. Then it hit me that I meant it for anyone in my life. I hope it helps or if nothing else makes you appreciate what you do have instead of what you do not.
I woke up today, feeling lighter in months. The sun is shining, lighting up my library and my soul. I sit here writing these letter with a smile on my face. I have been meaning to write to many of you and then it hit me that it was almost the same message for all of you. If you’re getting this email today, it is because I love you, and cannot express how much you mean to me in person. Before anything else, I would like to apologize to some of you for my mean spiritedness and my childishness. I expected everyone to behave exactly how I was feeling, and I made it about me and not Preeti so please accept my apology as I was unfair, small-minded and frankly, just selfish. To some others, I was also unkind and cruel for no real reason than because they happen to be in the way and again, I apologize. All of who have been generous with your warmth, help and thoughts at one time or another so much so that I don’t think I will ever be able to repay you. So I simply say thank you again, and again and again. 🙂 One last apology, I couldn’t BCC you all for some reason so please ignore the CC’s and do not reply all please.
But that’s not the real reason for this email I just finished reading the Taking The Leap by Pema Chodron, and so much of the book made instant sense to me so I ask you to please get the book (I was lucky enough to be gifted by someone very thoughtful). In a nutshell, the book says we are not alone, and we do not need to suffer alone. Many of you are going through your own crisis’s and challenges, and I just want to let you know that your are loved and thought of by me and others Don’t let ego and pride be the reason for not reaching out. I know I didn’t. Don’t let fear, hate and anger rule your world because in the short-term it will feel good but it won’t solve anything in the long-term. Do not let negative emotions rule your day and self because they are just old habits that will only give you temporary relief.
Instead, pause throughout the day, take 3 deep breaths. 1) Acknowledge that you have the emotion 2) Experience the emotion 3( most importantly, relax and let it go. You don’t have to act on those negative emotions. I just reread the email, and I know I sound like a born again sappy religious wacko, but I truly mean the words that are here. I love you, I miss you, and I am sorry. IF nothing else, please just remember that.
Have a great day. I know I will be thinking of you all.
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An old man goes to the Wizard to ask him if he can remove a curse he has been living with for the last 40 years. The Wizard says, "Maybe, but you will have to tell me the exact words that were used to put the curse on you. The old man says without hesitation, "I now pronounce you man and wife." A few months after his parents were divorced, little Johnny passed by his mom’s bedroom and saw her rubbing her body and moaning, "I need a man, I need a man!" Over the next couple of months, he saw her doing this several times.
One day, he came home from school and heard her moaning. When he peeked into her bedroom, he saw a man on top of her.
Little Johnny ran into his room, took off his clothes, threw himself on his bed, started stroking himself, and moaning, "Ohh, I need a bike! I need a bike!"
Jack is on his death bed, and he says to his wife, "Can you give me one last wish?" She says, "Anything you want." He says, "After I die, will you marry Larry?" She says, "But I thought you hated Larry." With his last breath, he says, "I do."
The Husband Store A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City , where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates. "You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!
So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband.
On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 – These men Have Jobs She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads: Floor 2 – These men Have Jobs and Love Kids. ‘That’s nice,’ she thinks, ‘But I want more.’ So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads: Floor 3 – These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking. ‘Wow,’ she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:
Floor 4 – These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.
‘Oh, mercy me!’ she exclaims,
‘I can hardly stand it!’
Still, she goes to the fifth floor
and the sign reads:
Floor 5 – These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads: Floor 6 – You are visitor #31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at
the Husband Store.
PLEASE NOTE: To avoid gender bias charges, the store’s owner opened a New Wives Store just across the street. The first floor has wives that love sex. The second floor has wives that love sex, have their own money and like beer
The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.
Yesterday, I leaned into it. Myself that is, the minor irritations, the anxiety about not writing, the deadline to get the assignment done even half-assed. I acknowledged I was hooked, leaned into it, took 3 deep breaths, and relaxed, actually that’s not quite accurate, I actually enjoyed and appreciated everyone, the Natural warmth came out right away! I spend an interesting hour talking to my father in law, getting to know him, another with her best friends about the day, and what they were up to, and for a while, it almost seemed like a party in the Oncology module. We ate with her, and laughed and although Kaiser nurses especially seemed intent on kicking us out of the treatment every 5 minutes, the time we all spent together made the 5 hours go by quickly.
I could not believe how generous everyone with their time and spirit. From someone driving from the Valley just to drive her 5 minutes, to others coming right after work, and one even skipping work to come spend time with her. As I relaxed, I saw the true warmth and openness of others, and I was ashamed at my earlier reactions. I leaned into that, breathed it in, recognized it for what it was: hurt at feeling alone and just plain loneliness. I lashed out for no other reason than because it was easy to do, and I felt better temporarily. So now I work on pausing, leaning in, taking the breathing in and just relaxing and letting go.
Thank you, Pema Chodrom, your book Taking The Leap has touched my life.
thank you all for your texts, calls, Facebook messages and prayers for her as we go through this very difficult time. I do apologize if I hurt any of you in any way. I hope I can fix that, and know that you are all appreciated for all that you have done and will do.
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