Numbers have a funny way of insinuating themselves into our lives. This year makes it our twelfth wedding anniversary, but its our first one with Zyan, and suddenly 12 becomes a whole lot more meaningful and beautiful. I never thought I would accept sharing my wife with someone who not only multiplies our love, but has it focused on him. Each of our glances towards each other also have him in the periphery. Instead of a meal with just two of us, we became a party of 3 and for a while we felt full being a complete family unit(of course, the dog would have made it more complete for my wife).
And all i can do is count my blessings. Things are changing all the time, but for us, the changes have been continuous and rapid. Some have been not as welcome, but a majority have required us changing our mindset. More specifically mine. My tendency or need for structure does not serve me well sometimes when there are changes. I get to learn to navigate or find different ways to accomplish my goals. Too often, I get hung up on the way my day did not go as planned, and so now I get to think about my days differently.
The same applies to our marriage. As we grow together, we learn to support each other. It can take a while when we get stuck in our stories. One of my biggest learnings is that instead of focusing on my needs and words, I get to learn to stay open, present, and truly hear the others. More often than not, we are saying the same thing but in different ways. And I admit there have been times it has led to lack of appreciation and understanding of each other.
One of the wonderful things about numbers like anniversaries is a chance to reflect, to celebrate, to perhaps apologize, to acknowledge, to share our blessings, but most of all, to let the other person how much they are truly loved.
Happy Anniversary Babu, I love you.