Month: December 2023

This past weekend began with us attending our nieces holiday program, and dinner with the family which Zyan actually made through. It warmed my heart to see him spend time with his cousins especially Ezra who is a year older than him, and I cannot wait for them to become best friends. It was just a sign of the weekend to come. On Saturday, it was a me and Zyan night while during the day was just the four of us, making me looking forward to even more days where we spend quality, focused time on our small little family while also receiving love from our huge hearted families.

The best surprise came on Sunday as my cousin was in town from London with her kids and seeing the interact with Zyan along with my niece Hansa and Kavan made for a very special day. The amount of attention and love showered on our son filled our hearts and reminded us how truly lucky we are with so many involved and rooting for Zyan. Sitting back and reflecting on this past weekend, I can’t stop smiling as. none of the weekend was planned, but it came out beautifully.

Its moments like these that give me the strength to know that even if I am not here, Zyan will be fully supported by all of our family. Part of being a lawyer for me is thinking of the worse case scenarios, and perhaps its a bit morbid to think about this during the holidays, but a lot of my living now is full of wanting to devote myself to making Zyan feel as loved as possible, to protect him from trauma, to teach him strength in all its different shapes, to have him be open to speaking up what’s inside of him, but most of all to be comfortable in his own skin and his life choices.

It feels surreal to say this but the Holidays have taken on an even more amazing quality to them now that Zyan is in our lives. Moreover, the holidays are also a great reminder of how truly blessed we are to have so many cheered by his mere presence. It pushes me to keep being a better version of myself, ensure that I can give him all that I had and more, and that 2024 is one for the record books. It means better health, better habits, learning new things, teaching him new things. creating new routines, sticking to them, creating a wider work network so I keep getting the referrals so ultimately it comes back full circle: which is being the best parent possible.

So while the holidays invite celebration, they also are a good foundation to lay the next year on by learning what worked this year and what didn’t. I am grateful for my accountability groups, my wife, my family and friends, all of whom push me to be the best version of myself. And so I go into these holidays with gusto, knowing that there is so much good I have experienced and that I get to experience. It makes for exciting times, and I hope to transfer that same joy into Zyan.

Zyan and the Holidays, what a beautiful, beautiful treat!