This past week has been a mishmash of good and bad reminders. A dear friend is yet again in the hospital, and another experienced some scary symptoms which enforced for me the need for balance in one’s life. I tend to over reward myself when I do something good like eating till my stomach feels like an additional appendage, or justifying not making alternative choices when I cannot attend the gym. With the added stress of being a solo practitioner, it has become crystal clear to me that I can only ignore or deny only so many missteps with my health. With age and parenthood come constant instances for chances of being mindful, of recognizing whats truly going inside me, of not giving myself (and those dear to me) a pass simply because it feels easier. I want all my loves to be around for as long as possible.
And then I had a great reminder in celebrating the birthday of a truly kind soul. Megha is the type of person who randomly will text me to ask me how I am doing. I admit, at first, I was taken aback as I assumed she was just my wife’s friends, but over the years, it’s become clear that she is a staunch supporter of those she cares for. In her own unassuming way, she’s managed to not just become a friend, but someone Zyan will call and see as family. Quite a feat considering the size of both of our families, but then again, not a surprise when one considers how thoughtful her words, actions and gifts are. She makes you feel heard and seen. Those in her life are also fiercely guarded of her heart and genuine nature because it’s not often someone so true to you comes along. Happy 40th Megha!
And then of course, today is our first child Bella’s 15th birthday. She was my gift to my wife when I proposed to her, and 15 years later, she has borne witness to all the milestones in our lives. It’s surreal and touching to see her interact so calmly with Zyan. As much as I bitch and moan about taking her for walks, or picking up her treats, I truly cannot imagine a life without her in it. Happy Birthday Bella!
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