Sitting in the quietness of the day, I now know that I am not alone anymore. Prior days, weeks, months that were spent alone are now shared with someone I love deeply. It’s an intense feeling, shimmering over my thoughts briefly, sprinkling my days with a deep longing for the one gone temporarily. I no longer have an emptiness in my soul or the need to fill myself with temporary distractions just so I feel as if I am alive. Looking around my friends, I see some who are alone, who are going through the same struggle as I did when no one could fill the void in their soul. Sure, we all have false starts and even perhaps some slight promise of one or two who may be the one, but deep in our hearts we already know that is not true. As someone with several failed relationships, I am well aware that more times than not, we breathe life and personalities into people just because on the surface they seem so right with us. In a way, we try to force upon ourselves and the person, who they SHOULD be rather who they ARE.
Yet, I also know the hard truth that this battle is theirs alone, and the only thing we can do is to love them as our own and be there when they ask for us. You cannot force yourself upon anyone, no matter how great your intentions. That’s a hard lesson for me, as my instinct is to always jump in to help. But just like with success, a friendship or a relationship can only move forward when we accept who we are and stop trying to change the one we want them to.
Of course, nothing I am saying is new or even perhaps original, just that it’s funny how all of us at one time or another go through the same experience, but really just fail to realize that there is always someone who has gone through exactly the same thing. My point? Look around you, and you will always find the support, love and kindness you need. You just have to believe that you are NOT alone…
- Heart & Soul…. What’s the Difference?? (sarahspeaks123.wordpress.com)