Today is my wife’s birthday and there is so much I have to say about someone who inspires me so much. It is a pleasure to wake up and see her beautiful face, to watch her embrace her niece or give me a tight hug or her hear reminisce about Papa or watch her hang out with my mom and sisters, sharing so much of herself with ease, jumping in daughter mode when needed, helping out her mom, hugging her dad, spending time with her sister in laws, and friends, and just doing it all not out of obligation but who she is.
It is inspiring to be around someone who has suffered so much in her young life yet people who meet her have no idea. I cannot complain when she gives up her time and energy in a heartbeat for not just her family but mine and has made it so I cannot say hers and my family. Through her love and personality, she has fused so many people into my life and made it bigger, grander, fuller and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
She has pushed me to grow, to be a better version of myself, allowed me space to deal with my demons and continually surprises me with her attitude and love. She gets better and younger looking each year and I envy the fact that she still gets carded. But more than anything else I am truly grateful that we get to be together through the tough times and the better ones, that we get to support each other when something heavy happens or when we are celebrating together. Occasions have more meaning for me when she is around, a constant reminder that one is not defined by disease or birth or family, but by their attitude, capacity to love, to forgive and to keep paying it forward.
Happy Birthday Babu!!