Conflict Clones

The Way to Save Ourselves
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As I have mentioned before, I have become enthralled by BK Shivani and her series. Currently, I am going back and forth between “Healer Within” and “Soul Connection” (why I don’t just finish one to move on the next, I don’t know).  Yesterdays episode of Soul Connection (Soul Connection 24) dealt with conflicts.  In this episode, her message was simple. No one is ever wrong. We are all just different. We have our own reasons for doing thing. The main reason conflict occurs is not that we are different, but we are convinced that we are right and they are wrong.  That dynamic causes the pain in conflict.  The truth is we all want people to be like us but really do we want clones? Imagine a world just of Sanjay Sabarwals’s, acting and behaving the exact same way all day all the time.  A drama where all the lines are the same, read and said the same way and acted the same. A bit boring, don’t ya think?

Yet, all day we are angered, annoyed, irritated and frustrated by others for not doing things they want we would do them. We spend so much time trying to be right that we lose sight of the whole point of being alive. Of being present, of loving the moments and people as they and accepting that they are just different.  I know as simple as this idea is, how difficult it truly is to implement. Truthfully. I do want people to change, to deal with things as I want them to. I want to be IN CHARGE, but really I have no control over others. The only thing I have control over are my thoughts, feelings and actions.

The other truth is that while I may feel as if I am right, what I am really doing by being annoyed, angered, irritated and frustrated by others is wasting time.  Time that I can use to explore, expand and energize myself.  So I start each morning with my Japji Sahib, enjoy walking my dog passing each blade of grass as if it’s the first she has ever seen, and then come back to watch BK and then maybe dabble in, and and may be just maybe work on the every growing very personal essay.   That’s what I have control over.  Everyone else, well, everyone else is different. And you know what, that’s alright.

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