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Date: Wed, 04 May 2011 08:20:16 +0000
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Subject: Why You Struggle With Changing Habits and How to Change This Why You Struggle With Changing Habits and How to Change This <http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com>
Why You Struggle With Changing Habits and How to Change This <http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/struggle-with-changing-habits/> Posted: 03 May 2011 12:26 PM PDT <http://api.tweetmeme.com/share?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.peopleskillsdecoded.com%2Fstruggle-with-changing-habits%2F>
I have a question for you: how often do you find yourself in a situation where: 1) you know you should change, 2) you even want to change, and yet 3) you don’t change? If you’re like the majority of us, I’m going to guess that your answer is: “Quite often, damn it!” Join the group, take a seat and pay attention, because the solution to your predicament is close, very close.
It’s Not about Want or Willpower
The standard view in our society is that if a person truly wants to change and to get somewhere, they won’t just try, they’ll make it happen. And if they don’t change in a reeeeally long period of time, then they either don’t want it badly enough or they lack willpower. Like Yoda says: “Do or not do. There is no try”. Right? Well, NO. It turns out that the little fella is full of bullshit. Not changing in the direction you chose is not a problem of want or willpower. You are not lazy, stupid or unmotivated for finding it quite hard to quit smoking, lose that extra weight, spend less time online or change your communication style <http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/top-10-lessons-learned-from-coaching-100-people/> . You’re only human, and there is no need to feel guilty. It turns out that the habitual behaviors of human beings are very much influenced by personal, social and situational factors. Thus, the real key to change is not to try harder, it is to improve your change strategy.
How to Actually Change
This being said, I invite you to watch the 53 min. video below for a powerful lesson on the topic. It’s a recent Google Talk where Joseph Grenny shares the real science <http://www.peopleskillsdecoded.com/the-law-of-attraction-vs-science> of changing habits. I came across it yesterday and I found it mind-blowingly smart. Seriously, this talk could be one of the best pieces of personal development information you’ll ever get. So if you skip it, I’ll personally kick your ass. Image courtesy of Krikit <http://www.flickr.com/photos/krikit/>
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